Aug
Yoga And Sex
This article is about how to increase your sexuality through Yoga
A GREAT SEX LIFE is more than fun–it’s also good for your health. “Sexually active people tend to live longer and have a lower incidence of heart disease. According research, hormones and brain chemicals released during orgasm help manage acute and chronic pain. Other studies show that sex can fight depression and weight gain, and support the immune system.
So how does yoga help? By making you stronger, more flexible, and more confident in and out of bed. In short, the more time you spend on the mat, the more steamy your time in the bedroom, “Yoga helps you open your body and tap into your core strength and sexual energy,”. Yogis believe sexuality is stored in the hips and pelvis;
Beyond increasing sexual pleasure, Yoga poses build strength and stamina. Additionally, yoga teaches self-acceptance–and if you love your body, you may feel more comfortable being naked and less inhibited during sex. “Feeling at ease with your body is sexy.
By practicing yoga with your lover, you can both enjoy the benefits–and grow closer in the process. “Couple’s yoga is like foreplay: You’re breathing, sweating, and moving together,” And when the sheets are untangled, the fruits of your practice can have a long-lasting outcome: “Without a doubt, I think doing yoga with your partner deepens your relationship”. “It helps you connect on all levels–physical, mental, and spiritual.”
While some yogis practice abstinence as part of their yoga, many yogic lineages are tantric. Tantric principles acknowledge the body as divine, and integral part of your spirituality, and all bodily functions are acknowledged and respected, not hidden.
Sex is a natural expression of love, and of energy, and there are many people in Western Society who have a variety of issues around sex. Generally, if people have a low sex drive or low sexual control, self-esteem is affected. People with a healthy, active sex life are shown to have healthier hearts and reproductive organs, lower instances of psychological problems, and there are many physical benefits! Yoga can help increase sexual vitality and control.
There is nothing wrong with sex – it is healthy, and can be physically satisfying, fun, and transformational if used to attain different levels of consciousness. The moment of orgasm can be a state of altered consciousness, and it lasts to short a time for most people – what if you could maintain that state for longer periods of time? How would this affect your romantic partnerships as well? A healthy, active sex life can make your body healthier, your mind happier and more clear, and your interactions with others more joyous.
I feel that there is no shame in our bodies – and the first step towards a healthy sex life is to love your own body, and be comfortable with your entire body. Find a partner who you can trust and understands this, and explore each other’s bodies – if you are shy about having your partner touch part of your body, for example, the anus, then practice touching there, in a safe and loving setting, using massage and softness to help each other accept the body in its entirety.
Second step – open mind. Don’t judge what you like or dislike – what turns you on or off. Just learn it about yourself. You don’t need to act on every fantasy or every erotic thought – just know what has a sexually arousing effect on you, and let go of shame or judgment. You may not need to take a pill to help with this! You can increase sexual energy using yoga!
Consider letting your partner watch you do your routine sometimes. It’ll keep your practice from getting boring and it will peak their interest in doing yoga, (and in doing other things!) This can be especially enticing if it’s done with the understanding that it’s ‘look but don’t touch!’ But, hey, if it does end up there, yoga teaches us to also ‘go with the flow’!
Don’t worry about how your body looks. We all have lumps and bumps where we wish there weren’t any, and we’re all missing curves and lumps where we wish there were some! Your partner is not going to care! They’ll love the chance to enjoy your workouts! They’ll love that you’re doing more and more to make your love life great!
If you’re doing your yoga and start feeling unhappy about the way you look, simply notice the feeling, take a nice, slow breath in and go back to paying attention to the stretch and to your breathing.
How to Get the Most out of the Following Routine
•Notice how your body relaxes as you breathe out, which will allow you to stretch a little farther.
•Do not stretch so much that you feel burning or pain.
•If you feel like your body has hit a concrete wall, then you’re at your limit. When you get to that point, simply breathe and feel your body relaxing for a couple more breaths, then let the posture go.
•Relax completely in between repetitions, feeling your muscles letting go of the stretch, feeling them relaxing. The full routine will take about an hour.
The vast majority of men and women are, through sexual relations, losing the very thing he or she needs most to find real, lasting satisfaction.
There is a vital life-current activating force or essence in the vital fluids that can be of tremendous benefit to the glands and nervous system if these fluids are conserved and reabsorbed through the process of Tantra and transmutation. Conservation makes it much easier to be content with very little and results in much greater sensitivity to those things that bring joy, inspiration and happiness. What normally would bring little pleasure creates a lot of pleasure, as long as one’s precious sexual fluids are maintained and not lost.
The breathing excersises and meditation practices that I will be writing about require sexual energy to be effective and benefical, and at the same time, is needed for transmutaion. Successful control of the senses requires strict control of the mind gained through long periods of concentration in the third eye and inner sounds through meditation.
Depending on how one uses this information, one can free oneself more and more from the need of physical sex to find a superior and long lasting fulfillment through conservation and transmutation. Why go for the temporary excitement of sensual pleasure (loss of vital fluids) if it is possible to enjoy long periods of bliss, joy and experiences of profound spiritual inspiration, oneness or wholeness? Perfect, uninterrupted celibacy, if skillfully managed, can also mean a lifetime of uninterrupted joy, bliss, vitality, virility, better health, inner strength, greater memory and wondrous mental powers enchantment inevitably leading to some very high states of conscious realization. In this lifestyle, temporary thrills are sacrificed for constant joy.
Yoga Meditation Breathing for Better Sexuality:-
This is a basic meditation that will help your ability to simply sit and notice feelings without doing anything about them. With practice, you will be more able to sustain your sexual energy during love making and will be more able to build your sexual desire during a session. As a result, you will have more rich experiences – and stronger orgasms.
Where & When to Do This:-
Any time, anywhere you have a moment.
Best place is in a quiet spot where you’ll be undisturbed for 5 – 20 minutes.
Best time is in the morning – but any time is good.
The Meditation Techniques
•Sitting comfortably or lying down.
•Be in a position where your body will feel least inclined to move.
•If you’re lying down, have your arms by your sides with a little space between your body and your arms.
•If you’re sitting, your arms can be resting loosely in your lap, elbows slighltly open.
•Have your face & chin pointing forward, so that your air passages are fully open.
•Eyes are open and relaxed, not looking at anything in particular.
Once you are settled into place, all you need to do is pay attention to your breath as it comes and goes.
As you breathe in, hear the air rushing into your head, feel your body opening up. As you breathe out, follow the breath out into the room. Do this for however long you have. 3 – 5 minutes is a good start. If you become comfortable with 3 – 5 minutes, increase the duration 1 minute at a time.
During this meditation, it’s very common for people to have feelings and thoughts come up.
You might notice a flood of emotions start to rise up, or your mind might start to race. Many people start to feel slightly irritated with the exercise, or they start to feel ‘ant-sy’.
This is OK and is a sign that the meditation is going normally and is working. It shows that your mind is starting to relax, and as it is relaxing you are starting to let go of thoughts and feelings that you have been keeping ‘a lid on’. The remedy for this is to simply notice the thoughts and feelings and let them go by breathing in and out. Draw a slow breath in, noticing the air flow in, noticing how your body opens up – and you’ll refocus and be back into the meditation. If you can continue, you will eventually find that these feelings subside and you reach a deeper state of meditation. The benefit to your life is that it makes you very patient and trains you to enjoy the moment.
With Your Partner:-
There are some wonderful variations on this meditation if you want to do it with your partner. With any of these, you may sometimes find your breathing ends up being synchronized. If you are aware of your energy bodies, you might also notice that these exercises start synchronizing your energy bodies, so that the rhythms, flow and colours begin to be in harmony with each other. When that happens, it’s very beautiful.
Here are three variations of this meditation that are lovely to do with your partner:
1. Simply practice together, in the same room, each of you paying attention to your own breathing.
2. Sitting, facing each other, do the meditation by paying attention to your partner’s breathing. You may find it hard to keep your attention on your partner’s breath. If your mind wanders, that’s OK, just bring your attention back to the exercise.
3. Both of you lie down, facing the same direction, one partner snuggled up behind the other. Decide ahead of time how long you will do the meditation and if it is or is not allowed to go farther into sexual exploration. Decide ahead of time if you will be paying attention to your own breathing or to your partners’, or if you’re going to start with yourself and later shift to noticing your partner’s breath. Then simply notice the breath as it comes and goes, the movement of your bodies, the sounds, the feel of the breath on your skin.
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